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From: ross{at}rossolson.org>
Sent: Thursday, December 5, 2019
To: opinion{at}startribune.com
Subject: Are you missing something?
Are you missing something?
A reader catalogues the resources that must be tapped to allow each child to be successful and
mysteriously skips right over mothers and fathers. (“It starts younger than we think” December 4, 2019)
Absence of a father in the home is a powerful predicter of unfavorable outcomes.
How does that happen? Can it be prevented? In our cultural obsession with affirmation of every chosen
behavior, we have discarded what had been common sense for most of human history. Expression of
human sexuality needs to be contained, for the good of individuals and society.
Sexual activity produces a powerful bonding that has both psychological and biochemical
mechanisms. It is intended to lead to a family committed to each other including children that result,
leading to the best possible environment for their flourishing.
Repeatedly broken sexual relationships end in an extinction of the ability to attach, a deadness, or a
callous disregard for the other individual. (https://www.medinstitute.org/ ) Yet this is what we teach
our young people – do whatever you feel like but use technology to “prevent consequences.”
An old but successful strategy:
1. Sexual abstinence until finding the person to whom one wants to devote an entire life (sex
before gathering sufficient information to make that choice leads to bonding with a wrong
person).
2. Enter into a faithful relationship and stay faithful
3. Work out differences because it is crucially important.
4. Cherish children and prepare then for the cause and effect of the real world with genuine caring
discipline.
Ross S. Olson MD
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